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Have you ever thought about how games are a metaphor for life? 

Wiki’s definition of a game is "a structured activity usually undertaken for enjoyment and sometimes also used as an educational tool. Key components of games are goals, rules, challenge, and interactivity. Games generally involve mental or physical stimulation, and often both. Many games help develop practical skills, serve as a form of exercise, or otherwise perform an educational, simulational or psychological role. Games are a universal part of human experience and present in all cultures."

Think about the game of hockey for example.

It is a team sport, the more goals you make the better.  Sometimes you win, sometimes you loose.  Haven’t we been told or tell our kids, it’s how you play the game that counts.  When you win, the entire team feels very proud of themselves, but it depends on "how" you win.  When you lose, you might feel bad, but you get over it and try better next time. Games where you slaughter the other team are not much fun at all. 

However, if you’re my nine-year-old nephew Jesse you might look at it a different way. Jesse was the goalie for his hockey team during a tournament. When the tournament was over, his mom asked what was his favorite game?  Totally unexpectedly he said, “The one we lost 14 to 1”.  She said, “Really? Why” He smiled proudly and said, “Because I made 56 saves in that game!”  Now that is a positive attitude!

Baseball is another example.  Sometimes you hit a home run, sometimes you score one base at a time, and sometimes you strike out.  The pitcher makes every attempt to strike you out, and the basemen are trying to put you out, but you continue to do your best.

Then there’s Tennis, there’s a lot of love in tennis.

Life is also like that.  It takes a team.  You can’t do it on your own or you would be the only person here on earth.  You should always strive to reach your goals and make your dreams come true.  Like hockey, baseball or tennis, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, there are always ups and downs and challenges, but you continue to improve your skills.  It’s your attitude during these times that makes the difference.

When you do win it is gratifying, the more goals you can achieve the more successful you are.  You feel proud of your accomplishments.  But sometimes you lose.  You can let the losses get you down, or you can learn from them and grow.

It is your decision how you play this game called “life”.    Do you want to sit on the bench, on the sidelines or in the dug out? Do you want to watch it go by as if on a TV screen?  Do you want to be a spectator or a player?    Choosing to participate, be a team player, set goals, and be grateful for the wins and the loses, scores a life that’s rosey.

Enjoy the game!
Carla



 
 
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So often I hear people say how others have upset them, or done them wrong, or ruined their lives, etc.  I used to be one of these people.  I blamed everyone, and everything for my rotten life.  After much soul searching, personal development, and reading the book Reframe Your Blame by my mentor and friend Jay Fiset, I have been able to take responsibility for my life and I realize that everything that happens is because I have created it.  Here are a few lessons I have learned, and by doing so, I have released resentment, worry, judgment, anger, hurt and fear. 

1.  No one can ruin your life.  Just like your thoughts and actions, you choose your feelings.  You choose how you feel and react to others.  I have learnt that if someone hurts me, it is my issue, not theirs.  It is my insecurity, or fear, or unwillingness to accept the truth.  I try to see what it is I am learning from it and don’t hold it against the other person.  When someone upsets me I tell myself “bless them, change me”.  It works every time.

2.  Stop worrying what others think of you.  What other’s think of you is none of your business.  I stopped worrying about what others think of me.  It is their issues and beliefs; it does not mean that it is my truth.  Live your life according to your morales, beliefs and values.  If others don’t agree, it is their choice.

3.  Stop blaming others for your unhappiness.  No one is responsible to make you happy.  This is your responsibility.  Once I learned this my life changed completely. 

4.  How you react is your own choice.  If you get upset over something someone else has said or done, it is your own emotions and feelings that dictate how you react to it.  I do not “feed the fire” by “getting the last word”.  I allow them to react how they choose to.  How I react is my own issue.  I deal with them and move on.

5.  Start being accountable for your actions.  Take responsibility for your choices.  You life is a result of your actions, no one else’s.  If something isn’t the way you want it to be change it.  If you make a mistake, admit it, apologize for it, and move on.

6.  Stop being a victim.  Stuff happens.  Let the experience teach you and make you a stronger person.  By overcoming challenges and helping others who may have experienced the same, you become the victor.

7.  Stop hanging out with negative people.  Negative people bring you down.  That’s all I need to say about this one.

8.  Don’t worry about things you can’t control.  You cannot control everything that happens or what others do or say.  Ninety-five percent of what you worry about never happens.  If you can’t change it, accept it.  It is what it is.  How you react to it is your choice.  What you can’t change it, let go.

Once I was able to change my perspective and learn that my feelings, reations, thoughts and emotions are things that I control, and by realizing that what others do, think and say has nothing to do with me, I have become a much less judgemental, more compassionate, accepting, and loving person, and because of that my life is much more rosey.

Living life on my terms,
Carla


 
 
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I would like to take you back in time, back to the early 1800’s.  Imagine, you hear the crow of a rooster, you stretch and crawl out of bed.  It is chilly and the only source of heat is a wood stove.  You build a fire; you heat water for your coffee and to wash up for the day.  The only light is coming from the flickering of the flames, and an oil lamp on the table.  Now fast forward to today.  Your alarm goes off, you jump out of bed and grab a Keurig.  After your shower, you might blow dry your hair or use your shaver.  All of these conveniences are things we never thought possible 100 years ago. 

Where does electricity come from?  Do you know?  Electricity is a very powerful source of energy.  We can plug in a 25 watt bulb and we get a little bit of light, or we can plug in a 40 watt bulb which gives us a little more light, but if we plug in a 100 watt light bulb, this lights up the entire room.  Do you think that if you plugged in a 500 watt bulb, that the power source would still be there?   Of course, it would be. 

You and I also have access to a very powerful source of energy that flows to and through us.  We are to this universal source the same as a light bulb is to electricity, and like electricity we don’t know where it comes from or how it works, it is just there.  We can resist it and block it, or we can open ourselves up to it and let it flow through.  This energy is unlimited the same way our potential is unlimited and it is our own thoughts and limiting beliefs that prevent us from being anything we want to be.  We have the power and potential to living a life that is amazing and unbelievable; a life that is charged up and on fire. 

Eight years ago I was a very unhappy person who was letting life go by without any appreciation for it.  I then had an aha moment. I realized that my happiness comes from within. I am responsible for my happiness, no one else, and it was like WOW, a light bulb went on.   I went from 25 watts to 100 instantly and my life has not been the same since. I am happy, and by living in a state of continuous gratitude, wonderful things keep happening for me. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would be a best selling author.  We all have the potential to be or do what ever we choose and live the life of our dreams. 

Think for a moment about Oprah Winphrey, Wayne Gretzke, or Bill Gates.  Are they living their dreams?  Are they powerful people?  Do they have the power to do what ever it is they dream of?  They have and so do you.  You are not Oprah, or Wayne Gretzke, you are YOU.  You are here for a reason.  You are unique, and no one can do you as well as you can. 

So do you want to be a 25 watter, or a 100 watter?  You  have the power.  So start now.  Light up your life, and live a life that’s rosey.

In light and love,
Carla