I have been an empty nester for ten years now, since my step-son Chris moved out of the house at eighteen years old. How time flies and how soon we forget the joys of having kids around 24/7.  I was recently reminded when Mark’s kids, Hailey and Tyson, age 10 and 8, moved in with us.

Our simple routine of getting up in the morning and getting ourselves to work has totally changed.  We now have to get two kids up, fed, dressed, lunches made and driven to school.  We thought our lives were busy before!

It’s funny how things we used to do as a parent without thinking, we now have to re-learn.  We have to remember to check their backpacks for homework and notes from the teachers.  They are basically telling us what needs to be done because we have forgotten. 

I am not sure why I am not feeling a lot more stressed.  I seem to remember I was much more stressed the first time around.   I don't know why I have more patience, but I do.  Does that come with age? Or from being a grandma?

Everyone keeps asking, “How is it being a full time mom again?” and are surprised when I say “Good!”  A lot of that has to do with Mark.  He is a wonderful dad and takes a lot of the responsibility.  He does most of it; I just fill in when his work schedule doesn’t allow it.

In the ten years since having kids around I realize I have learned a few things.

I do not have to shout to get my point across.   Gentle persuasion works much better than getting angry. Taking a few moments to talk to them about their day makes a huge difference.  It makes me wish I could go back and do things all over again with Chris.  I wish I knew then, what I know now.

It has been a wonderful experience having Hailey and Tyson here.  They are great kids and I see such potential in them and I am excited to be a part of watching them grow.  Each day I grow closer to them and want to be a positive influence on them. I love to see them laugh and play and have fun and I want to be a part of it.

I can’t believe how much more cooking, more dishes, more laundry, more cleaning, and more groceries, two kids can make.  I also can’t believe how much more laughs, more giggles, more hugs, more fun, more playing, and more love fills our home.  Having them here definitely makes life more rosey!

With giggles,



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